Dear Annie: I’ve been married for 28 years, and I’m starting to feel like my husband doesn’t love me as much anymore as he once did.

We talk and get along, but it feels like we are more friends instead of lovers. We used to make love all the time. But since we moved in with his dad to take care of him, I’m lucky if we make love once a week. And when we do, it’s not the same. It feels rushed and like he’s in a hurry to finish.

Am I just overthinking and overreacting? — Lonely in Love

Dear Lonely: You’re not overreacting; you’re simply noticing a shift in your marriage and longing for the closeness you once had.

Caring for an aging parent is noble but draining, so it makes sense that intimacy has shifted to the back burner. But that doesn’t mean it’s bound to stay that way forever. Talk to your husband. Tell him you miss him, not just sexually, but emotionally, too. A good couples counselor can support you both in getting the conversation going. The flame is still there. Now you two just need to work to reignite the fire.

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