This episode was originally published on March 16th, 2017.

The term “ghosting” isn’t a new concept anymore—the idea that someone suddenly and inexplicably disappears from your life. In the past, a total halt to communication with a friend might leave you feeling concerned that something bad happened to him/her. But at a time when our devices have made us more accessible than ever, this can leave the person who’s been ghosted feeling rejected or unworthy.

The Sugars discuss ghosting with the essayist and cartoonist Tim Kreider. He’s the author of We Learn Nothing, a collection of essays that includes a story about being ghosted by a childhood friend.