Dear Annie: My younger sister is getting married in June and has asked me to be her maid of honor. I was genuinely touched – until she handed me an extensive “wish list.” It includes hosting a destination bachelorette weekend (on my dime until others reimburse me), attending dress fittings three hours away on weekdays, organizing a bridal shower with “an elevated garden-party aesthetic” and being available for “brainstorming calls.”

I work full-time. I have two small kids and a husband who travels. When I mentioned how excited I was but that I might not be able to meet every expectation, she got upset and said, “I thought you’d want to show up for me the way I would for you.” It really stung!