Dear Annie: I moved 600 miles away from my hometown 40 years ago, but keeping up a relationship with my parents (who’ve since passed) and my four siblings was always important to me. Family was paramount to my mother, and she instilled that same value in me.

I traveled back home countless times, eventually with my husband and two children, for each of my siblings’ and their children’s and grandchildren’s weddings, milestone birthdays, holiday celebrations, etc. When my sister moved to another state, I visited her several times. For my 40th birthday, I flew to my hometown and hosted them all at a nice restaurant. For my 60th birthday, I hosted my siblings at an expensive vacation home in Kauai.