DEAR ABBY: My younger sister, who is divorced, has raised two sons who are now young adults but strangers to me. Sis and I have had an on-and-off relationship, but we love each other regardless of our differences. I married a Frenchman and have lived in France for the last 30 years. I haven’t seen Sis in 10 years. She has never been to France to visit me with her boys, although I have offered to pay for part of their expenses. We talk regularly, and I share photos of our family often. I haven’t seen a photo of her boys for 10 years. When I ask why, she laughs and says her boys dislike having their pictures taken. I find that difficult to accept. I find it hurtful and sad that she refuses to share any photos of my nephews with me. I’d like to go see her, but I’m afraid I won’t feel welcomed because of this. I feel she has isolated herself and her sons from the rest of her family. What should I do? — ISOLATED SISTER ABROAD

DEAR SISTER: Inform your sister that, after 30 long years, you are booking a trip to the U.S. to reconnect with friends and family, and ask if she would have time to visit with you and your family. Her response will tell you everything you need to know. From my perspective, the trip would be good for you, and you could make it with or without her blessing.