Dear Abby: My sister has always been a liar and a manipulator. She has lost jobs because of her toxic behavior. Our parents passed away 20 years ago, and ever since, she has trashed their memory to anyone who will listen. She claims she was unwanted because she was female, that my parents refused to name her and wouldn’t take her home from the hospital until police were called. None of that is in any way true.
Now, she’s claiming our mother slept with multiple men and my biological father could be nearly anyone. I have a DNA test that proves that my father was the man who was married to my mother for more than 50 years. She dismisses this proof as a “lab mistake” and maintains her tale about my parentage.
How do I respond to this? Do I contact members of our large extended family and tell them what she is doing? I suspect that what she wants is a reaction from me, which she will then weaponize against me as she often does. How do I handle such a liar, who has no concern for the impact of her allegations?
— FRUSTRATED BROTHER IN TENNESSEE
Dear Brother: Your sister appears to be mentally unbalanced and unwilling to accept you as her full brother. She may also be trying to upset you. If you think she has been spreading these rumors among your relatives, by all means reach out and tell them you have proof that what she has been saying is untrue. One can only imagine what else she has been lying about.
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