Dear Eric: I’m a happily married woman who talks to a gay guy that frequently walks in my neighborhood. We have so much in common. I recently gave him some plants from my garden, and we’ve texted a bit. Simply put, I enjoy his company. He seems receptive to starting a friendship with me. He said I could stop by his house sometime to chat. I sense that he’s nervous that I don’t know he has his partner living with him (I know he lives there). The last thing I want to do is make him or his partner feel uncomfortable in any way. Should I really stop by and introduce myself?

– New Friend

Dear Friend: In the immortal words of Shania Twain, “Come on over! Come on in!” (Maybe call or text first to make sure it’s a good time.) Consider bringing a little gift, a plant or something. He extended the invitation, and it seems that it was genuinely offered, so I say take your friendship to the next level by accepting.

I’m curious about the nervousness he might be feeling. Do you live in a neighborhood that wouldn’t be welcoming to a gay couple? If so, your visit could be a great help to him and his partner, extending a welcome and making sure they know they’ve got a friendly and safe house on the block.

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